Thursday, August 19, 2010

Singletons....? WHAT!

I was talking to a friend today and she asked me how Sabrina was doing.  I told her fine and asked how her daughter was and if she was still planning on having a second soon.  She told me no and that it was a long story and how about us.  Were we going to have a second.  I had to think about this as it's a constant battle in this house.  So I said I'm not sure, the cost is high and the economy is what it is which makes things worse.  She then told me DON'T have another one, there is a new movement of people called Singletons that have only one child and will not have another as it impacts their financial situation  and as she put it to me, It's hard on Mothers like her who are in their 30's and working.

Ok, I'm in my mid 40's and working.  No, I will not be giving birth to a child but, more and more women are having children after 40 and unfortunately in their 60's ( I just threw up a bit in my mouth.  SIXTY! come on science, STOP IT!) Oldest Mother.  I know times are tough, but I think about Sabrina being an only child and it just does not make me happy.  I put her in her room to play while I folded her clothes,  She sat on the futon in her room and started to fall asleep.  She has, books, toys, stuffed animals and the list goes on.  She gets bored with us I think.  Bobby says, oh she has us to play with, but I do not think in our 40's we PLAY like kids play.  So a little different.  Lavishing the attention is not an issue, I think it is more get down on my level, lets play my way until we're done.  For us done is 20 - 30 minutes later when our OLD bones start to rattle and shake.   I would like to have another, it isn't anything do or die.  Two just seems perfect.  We will see what the future holds for us I guess.   Singleton Moms.


Michelle said...

You know my vote. Have a second. Kayla absolutely loves having her baby brother around to play with. She doesnt fight with him hardly at all and is very loving with him. It melts me like hot butter every time I see them play and interact together.

Money comes and goes, and it will for the rest of your life.

I know for us, 2 is perfect.
When Kayla was born I was more than happy, but still a piece was missing.

When Caden was born, that feeling of a missing piece was and still is totally gone and I can for once in my life say, 'no more babies!" and be happy with that statement!

Come on know you want another one! Listen to Gregg and Sabrina! (and me!)

Gregg said...

OH Michelle, You said that just perfect. I was so happy when Sabrina was born, My heart swells even now when I think about it, but I felt like something was off. I always said I wished it was twins the first time around.

Rhonda and Gerry W said... said a mouthful. I think about this ALL the time. Will Blaze be okay with not having any siblings??? Wouldn't it be nice to have another for him to play with??? It's not easy! Money, time, all weighs on our minds. But if you had another and we had much more fun would our play dates be!!! :)